Hiii Olivia Zoe here. This is a song I wrote a couple of years ago as a conversation between me and myself. I feel as though it is a conversation I will continue to have as new and

different aspects of me continue to come up and challenge my self concept.

I use to use these moments as a way to remind myself how little progress I’ve made. That if I was REALLY growing I wouldn’t still struggle with negative self talk, or self judgment. I

know now that that could not be further from the truth.

Every new version of us will probably be at least a little bit scary and uncomfortable to integrate. If my benchmark for “self love” is that I never judge myself again, then I will

probably be waiting a long time to reach that goal.

My new benchmark is simply the willingness to try.

If parts of me make me feel uneasy, and I’m willing to sit with that discomfort and try and understand those parts of me, then that’s pretty damn self loving in my opinion.

If I talk badly about myself and I consciously counter with the positive truths of me then that’s pretty damn self loving too.

And me willing to give myself the space to have all of these complicated feelings towards myself and the world around me is also pretty damn self loving.